Five steps to renounce ungodly expectations to heal strained relationships
When we have a need, we often expect someone or a community or family to help us out. When the help does not come, we feel lonely. We speculate that others do not seem to care about us. In our mind, we start to build cases against the people, organizations, or family members because they should have known our need, and they should have come to help because they are family, friends, or whatever. Resentment and bitterness start to make their way into our minds and soul.
What is the ungodly expectation?
An ungodly expectation arises when the word ‘should’ be used in a sentence or a relationship. When we cast our expectations on people instead of God and defile a relationship, that expectation is called ungodly expectation. Often, the “should” in these sentences convey an ungodly expectation: some say: I have been home so long and nobody from my church comes to visit me. A good church should care about its people and send a care team. When a mom asks her teenage daughter to do some chores at home, she responds that my mom should do all the house chores because she is a homemaker.
Godly expectations vs. Ungodly expectations
The Lens of Love quoted King David, “My soul, wait for thou only upon God; for my expectation is from him” (Psalm 62:5 KJV). Often, we look to other people to meet our needs when, in fact, God is the only one who can truly meet our needs and expectations. The tendency to look to others rather than God is called ungodly expectations.
Ungodly expectation strains relationships.
Ungodly expectations can strain our relationships because the person from whom we cast our expectations may or may not be able to fulfill our expectations. In the case of unfilled expectations, we may harbor bitterness against that person.
Five steps to renounce ungodly expectations that block good relationships
I often struggle with ungodly expectations, and God has led me through these four steps to be free from the ungodly expectations.
Step #1: Assess the heart of the relationship: is it in peace and love and free from bitterness or unforgiveness
Step #2: Ask the Holy Spirit to reveal any ungodly expectations if the relationship is strained
Step #3: Repent and renounce the ungodly expectations
Step #4: Follow this sample prayer
Step #5: Redirect expectations toward God
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