Fight Identity Crisis with 7 Keys
We all have experienced identity crises in one way or another. We allow an event of failure or mistake to define our identity. This kind of identity crisis is rooted in the faulty lens we see ourselves through.
You had failures, but you are not a failure.
Have you ever struggled with failure? How did you deal with it? Were you constantly reminded that ‘you are a failure?’ How can a person identified with failure be happy with themself? I experienced a demotion at the workplace more than thirteen years ago. I carried unhappiness and shame from that event for a very long time. I want to share some keys that I have learned to walk out of ‘unhappiness’ within you and embrace freedom.
An identity crisis occurs when you see yourself through a faulty lens.
People are not happy with themselves. One of the reasons is identity crisis – they see themselves through a faulty lens, which distorts how they were created to be. They no longer see themselves as God sees them. Their self-images are tainted by lies that deviate from the truth of who they are, as stated in God’s word, other people’s opinions of us, or celebrity images that society promotes us to follow.
Here are seven keys to fighting identity crisis and seeing yourself as God sees you – The Lens of Love:
- When you hear God saying: I love you, I am proud of you, and you are my treasure. Believe Him and agree and accept what He says about you.
- When family and friends affirm or compliment you, accept gratitude and believe what they’ve said about you.
- You need to set boundaries for people whose love language is critical.
- You ask God if these are true when your loved ones point out the areas for improvement. If it is true, ask God to guide you to make changes.
- Hang around people who have a positive outlook on life and encourage others. Let their encouragement and positivity rub off on you.
- When you hear negative condemning voices/thoughts, take a deep breath and ask God if this is from Him. We know that God does not condemn. The Holy Spirit convicts us of our sins. There is a difference between condemnation and conviction. God will let you know if the negative voice is from Him. If it is not from Him, reject that thought, and you can even say: I don’t accept it, and I send you back to where it comes from. Wait, and peace will settle in. You will not hear that condemning voice again.
You might say that I can’t even hear what God says about me. There is hope because I have been there. There are many recourses available for hearing God. My book The Lens of Love can also help you identify and remove tainted lenses through which you see God and yourself. You will receive clarity in seeing yourself as God sees you and restore your true identity as a child of God.
I want to hear from you if this blog helps you.