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Fulfillment with 3 Basic Steps
Why do we care about fulfillment?
Fulfillment has a lot to do with desires. In the Bible, King Solomon wrote in Proverbs 13:12 that Hope deferred makes the heart sick, but a desire fulfilled is a tree of life (NASB). There are godly desires and evil desires. Here we are referring to godly desires. One example of godly desire is the one in Psalm 37:4 “Delight yourself in the Lord; And He will give you the desires of your heart”.
The fulfillment of desire is a tree of life. The opposite is not a tree of life, or we could call it a ‘tree of death.’ We want life, not death. Jesus said in John 10:10 that the thief does not come except to steal and kill and destroy. I have come that they may have life and have it more abundantly. It is Jesus who gives us life and more abundant life.
How to find fulfillment in life?
From my limited life experience, I have concluded three steps towards fulfillment.
Step #1 Connecting with God more profoundly was the first step toward my life fulfillment.
Even though my career was going well, I felt something was missing. I longed for a family of my own. According to my late 30s, I would be considered an “old maid” in my Chinese culture.
When my career suddenly hit a rock, I did not know what to do. I went to see an executive coach and hoped that he could help me sort out the next steps. After much effort to affirm my abilities, my coach realized that his affirmations did not cast out a doubt. He then asked me a question: what would make you happy? I thought about it: I had a successful career, but it did not bring ultimate fulfillment. I told him: I want a family of my own and have children of my own.
It was a significant statement of my heart’s desire. The universe was waiting for this heart desire to be expressed. As soon as I said it, God orchestrated everything to fulfill this desire of mine. Shortly after this, I met my husband through local outreach. The rest is history.
I had the desire for a family of my own all along. The unexpected setback at my work made space for God and family relationships. Connecting with God more profoundly was the first step toward my life fulfillment (having my own family).
Step #2 Being authentic is a step toward life fulfillment.
One of the indications for life fulfillment is to be authentic with God and others.
I heard a testimony of a sister being set free from copying others and fearing being who she is. We applauded her courage in being Herself. Being who we are is so powerful, attractive, yet very vulnerable.
Why does being authentic lead to life fulfillment?
- Being authentic, you strip off any accusations, condemnation, or judgment, especially self-inflicted ones, as you pour your heart out to God and acknowledge that Jesus’s blood has covered all and you are under the protection of God.
- God requires authenticity in our relationship with Him, as in 1 Corinthians 8:3 “but if anyone loves God, he is known by Him.”
God created us, and He knows everything about us. What does ‘known by God’ mean?
The word ‘Know’ (ginṓskō) means: to know, primarily through personal experience (first-hand acquaintance) or sexual intimacy (Luke 1:34). Making us known by God is part of relationship building.
As a parent, I sense something is off with my children’s emotions. I love for my children to tell me what bothers them in school instead of hiding their anger and disappointment. I can pray with them and counsel them when they open to me. I believe that Father God is waiting for us to pour out our hearts to Him, although He knows it all.
The best example of being known by God is King David in the Bible. He poured out his heart and emotions to God. God calls him the man after His own heart.
Authenticity is the ingredient for Intimacy with God. God will lead those intimately with Him to their life fulfillment as in psalm 37:4 “Delight yourself in the LORD, And He will give you the desires of your heart”.
Step #3 Completing a creative project brings fulfillment to your desires.
Scanning through my generational line, I see giants of hatred, injustice, hopelessness, and fear. Even after I become a believer, I still see the giants roaming around in the land that the Lord gives to our family line. These giants pose as window shades blocking us from seeing God as good, powerful, just, and trustworthy.
By the mercy of God, little by little, the window shades were lifted so that we could see God as who He is. Compelled by His love, I see and pick up the generational mandate of knowing and remembering His goodness for the generations to come. Writing a book to record (The Lens of Love) what He did in me and through me is one way to fulfill this generational mandate.
I am learning that “Love overcomes hatred, hope in Christ triumphs hopelessness, faith in God casts away fear.” There is no justice outside of Jesus, and true justice is with God.
I wrote a book to fulfill my lifelong desire to write and publish a book and also to fulfill my generational mandate of recording God’s stories in my life for my generational line. The Purposeful Living Coaching that starts with God has facilitated my life fulfillment. It can do that for you too.