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Ungodly Expectation Hinders Relationships

What is ungodly expectation?

When we have a need, we often expect someone or a community or family to help us out. When the help does not come, we felt lonely. We speculate in our minds that others do not seem to care about us. In our mind, we start to build cases against the people, organization, or family members because they should have known our need, and they should have come to help because they are family, friends, or whatever. Resentment and bitterness start to make their way into our minds and soul. I call this ungodly expectation, and it defiles relationships.
There is likely an ungodly expectation when the word ‘should’ is used in the sentence or a relationship. During the pandemic, these kinds of ungodly expectations become more pronounced. Often, the “should” in these sentences convey an ungodly expectation: some say: I have been home so long and nobody from my church comes to visit me. A good church should care about its people and send a care team. Some say that the church is not considerate to weak people because it does not enforce mask mandate. A good church should consider those who are vulnerable. I totally agree to be considerate of the weak and vulnerable. However, leaving the church because it does not meet certain needs could be misplaced expectations in organizations rather than God.
The Lens of Love quoted King David, “My soul, wait for thou only upon God; for my expectation is from him” (Psalm 62:5 KJV). Often, we look to other people to meet our needs when, in fact, God is the only one who can truly meet our needs and expectations. The tendency to look to others rather than to God is called ungodly expectations.
Ungodly expectations can strain our relationships because they fall short of what we want and need. A relationship issue with an authority figure in the workplace is often a reflection of a relationship issue with an authority figure in the family.
When we request the Lord, He will meet our needs. Sometimes, He meets our needs through people or changes the circumstance. How often do you use the word ‘should’? How often do you experience God answering or meet your needs directly?
Wei Wei

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